If even the lowest setting is too much for you

Crave Vesper Mini Review: The Discreet Vibrator

“Wand vibrators are incredibly empowering and provide an opportunity for individuals to explore their bodies , understand their pleasure points, and gain confidence in their sexuality,” she says. Of course, adding sex toys into your relationships can be beneficial, too. For couples (or larger groups), “Introducing sex toys like wand vibrators can open up new avenues of intimacy and communication, exploring desires and preferences in a safe and enjoyable way,” Dr. Hack explains. Not to mention vibrators, she says sex toys can help folks who find it difficult to orgasm. If you’re into clitoral stimulation, try an external vibrator like a bullet or wand vibe.

These vibrators’ small size is actually their biggest benefit, as they are some of the most discreet sex toys—and travel-friendly too, as they’re easy to slip into a clutch, purse, or even be worn as jewelry (really!). You can always keep one close to you when on the go, just in case the mood strikes when you least expect it, and their unassuming shape and lower price point make them excellent vibrators for beginners. This quiet bullet vibrator features rabbit ears that can create a range of sensations against your clitoris. “You can let the ears graze and flutter against your body for lighter sensation, use the two ears to surround sensitive tissue, or put the toy’s body directly on your hot spots to enjoy the deep and penetrating rumble,” says Finn.

Its rotation function swirls textured beads over your G-spot, while its flexible bunny ears flutter on your clit. It lacks the fancy bells and whistles of some pricier rabbits, but it’s a solid, satisfying pick, not to mention a cool sex toy history throwback. Your choice of a tongue vibrator should be informed by research ensuring its safety and quality and the specifications you think would best suit your desires, like intensity range, aesthetic, and versatility. “With any device, make sure the materials used are body-safe,” says Dr. Nolan. “Consider how you might want to use the device—in the shower, in bed, or on your couch,” Dr. Hauser suggests looking for external and internally stimulating toys if you’re looking to achieve blended orgasms. Sex is great as-is, but wouldn’t it be even better with a side order of vibration?

The device has two arms – the internal one goes into the vagina to stimulate the G-spot and send vibrations along the penis, while the textured upper arm is designed to target the clitoris. The smooth silicone material was a hit with our testers, who also liked the discreet design and said it was whisper quiet. Turn it on to the lowest power setting, and gently touch it to the surface of your clitoris. Clits vary wildly in their sensitivity, so it’s best to start super soft. If even the lowest setting is too much for you, try holding the vibrator against your labia, so that it’s not touching your clitoris directly.

It’s USB-rechargeable (because disposable batteries are trash, literally) and delivers strong, satisfying vibrations with multiple settings. “This one is affordable, compact, and offers three speeds and seven different vibration patterns so you can explore and learn how your body reacts to vibrations. It’s waterproof, battery-powered, and comes with replacement batteries,” says O’Reilly.

It’s made from a flexible, body-safe silicone, he adds, so it should stretch to fit over the head of most vibrators. While wand vibrators are notoriously loud, you can fly under the radar while using the Cassia’s “gentle touch mode,” which is designed to be extra quiet and subtle. Plus, it has a curved handle that makes it easy to access your G-spot, as Conger points out.

At around 2.86 ounces, the Aer is about an ounce lighter than the Womanizer Classic. It’s also shorter and narrower, at 4.66 inches long and 1.46 inches at its widest point. Although shorter toys can sometimes cause wrist cramping due to a need for a longer reach, the nozzle of the Aer is more dramatically angled toward the body, making it ergonomic to use.

If you’re on the hunt for a sexy toy that serves as a body massager and powerful sex toy, this VUSH wand will deliver on both fronts. It has five varying levels and 10 optimised vibration patterns to explore plus, it features an ergonomic body so you can wiggle, pump and slide it around for up to two hours. Unlike a lot of other wands this one is waterproof, which means you can take it into the bathtub for ultra-wet sessions — alone or in partnered sex. Made from smooth, squishy, body-safe silicone, it offers five suction intensities and five vibration patterns to suit your preference.

With a simple push of a button, your partner can send you pleasure from across the country (or even around the world). Both apps allow for long-distance control with your partner’s phone, so you can play together even when you’re apart. The adjustable height and angle designs allow for the perfect position every time, plus it’s Vac-U-Lock compatible with all of your favorite attachments. This way, you can pilot your own ship or hand over the reins to your partner and let them have control.